letters to my 2025 ins and outs

the vibe of 2025 is softness, realness, authenticity, safety, comfort, joy, and expansion.

despite anything that will shake us this year (and if you’re in the US like me, you might be pretty scared of what’s to come…), we need to prioritize maintaining our relationships to joy, community, and rest. hopefully, these ins and outs (some silly, some serious) will help.

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ins

• getting enough sleep

• the grayscale setting on your phone

• pinterest collages

• the do not disturb setting

• voice notes

• therapy

• reading magazines

• being a regular at a coffee shop

• going to a cash register to check out instead of self check out

• singing in the car

• inviting a friend to come over and snuggle and watch a movie

• cozy bedsheets and soft blankets

• coffee creamer, you’re not better cause you drink it black

• a sweet lil treat

• trying the new hobby or activity you’ve been afraid to try

• even if you have to try it alone

• buying yourself flowers

• surprising a friend with flowers

• petting dogs you meet (when the owners allow it)

• writing little blog posts like you’re carrie bradshaw

• writing little blog posts with yearning like you’re writing a handwritten letter filling in your lover across the sea

• romanticize your life

• putting your water or juice or beverage in a wine glass (i’m sipping my cream soda olli pop from my wine glass right now)

• craft nights

• going to the movie theater

• watching the bachelor with your besties every week (or rupaul)

outs

• revenge bedtimes

• being overly negative/critical/pessimistic

• over indulging on alcohol

• getting coffee from starbucks or chains instead of finding a local spot

• chasing fashion or beauty trends

• road rage

• even just road irritation, let it go already

• hating women

• no really, stop hating women so much

• even women, you do it too

• stop it

• not taking off your makeup before bed

• “not being like other girls”

• being condescending about what books people read or how they consume them so you feel better and smarter than them (we’re all just taking words and making a mental movie out of them for fun, chill out)

• hating taylor swift and voicing it because you think it makes you cool (you can hate her and you can voice it, but don’t go out of your way to around someone you know likes her music, again, you don’t get a prize)

• surface level relationships (some are fine and not every relationship with your coworker or great aunt or roommates boyfriend needs to be deep, but the close relationships in your life should feel close)

• saying your friend is prettier than their ex’s new girlfriend - don’t compare women like this, it’s gross

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