cozy advice on: when is it okay to apologize to someone from the past?
Today I’ll be answering a question about what to do when we want to reach out to people in our past. This is pulled from r/advice on Reddit. Please submit your questions, and I will answer those as well!
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Here is what the OP posted:
I'm at a crossroads burdened by past mistakes and unsure on where to move on in my life. I'm 27, and while that is young it's also 5 years after college. Unfortunately, this will likely be a long message so I'll add a TLDR... I am stuck in an unrequited love situation and at a point in my career where I want to move to a new city and a different job. While my love life is one of the main reasons why I'm making this post, it's primarily my existential crisis that's driving this.
I'm at a point in my life where I realized that I need to start 'living' because I realized I only have one life. The sad truth of getting older and not realizing it when young like many others. I'm currently mentally exhausted because of my existential crisis and overthinking. While I am 'living' in the sense of travelling, hanging out with people, hobbies, I don't want to live life with regrets.
My question is: I want to move cities, but I can't decide where because of an ex I still have a crush on. I want to express my feelings to her because I don't want to live life thinking "What if?". It's not just her though, I want to tell my friends sorry for things I've done in the past, but I'm scared of people overreacting wondering "Are you ok?" or "That's a little much" resulting in me being outcasted. Even though I should live life, would I be trauma dumping or is it ok to take a leap of faith and let them judge me for my attempt to reconcile.
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Until next time,
Sam
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